Are you comforted when you open up?

As a 12H Sun, I find I am almost always invalidated when I share how I feel — even from my closest friends and family who I know love me.

It leaves me feeling like I should just stop sharing since whatever response I get is never helpful nor compassionate.

I often feel like people see me as very stoic and self-contained. They ask for vulnerability, but when I give it, it contradicts how people see me. Their responses are overwhelmingly harsh and cold — even when I’ve seen firsthand people around me experiencing similar issues receive much warmer and affectionate messages.

People regularly open up with me about deep and vulnerable subjects (even people who I’ve just met). They remark how understanding I seem…

These same people (really anyone) just aren’t understanding with me in return.

It’s really confusing and hurtful. Does anyone else relate?

FWIW — I am a 12H Aquarius Sun with a 1H Saturn/12H Saturn (depending on House systems).