Consistent religious grooming…?

Anyone else noticing a pattern of religious grooming? Not letting partners know off the bat the expectations in fear of scaring them off. Important things like, converting, domestic duties, clothing choices, family expectations, etc. I feel like I’ve heard time and time again, you have to teach her, slowly so she doesn’t get overwhelmed. She’ll learn. It’s giving grooming to me. These are all things I’d like a full grasp on PRIOR to marriage or engagement.