AITA for telling my ex she instigated her own assault tonight?
So normally most people would skip right to the “YTA” part here, but hear me out.
Tonight my ex called me and told me that she’d been assaulted by a family friend at the bar. She’s an ex addict and her job focuses a lot on manipulation and she practices that a lot at bars to get free drinks, literally searching for the weak links to get alcohol and money to feed her addictions. The thing is she typically does this to several guys in the same bar, because she literally gets off on the attention in a mental sense.
She called me tonight, talking about how she made out with her dead father’s friend that she decided to go out to the bar with. Now that was to start the night. Apparently wouldn’t till after that was him getting progressively drunk, and pulling her into more kisses publicly in the bar, which then escalated to grabbing her crotch to the point where the bartender intervened and the police were called.
I know what happened to her with sexual harassment, but am I wrong to tell her that her actions directly led to this? For added context here is a list of the things that have happened to her before by doing the same thing, that she apparently has not learned from
-getting shoved through a glass sliding door during an Uno & wine night
-fighting a grown man that proceeded to follow her around after she lead him on
-I nearly fought a dude she lead on which openly disrespected me at our own table
-3 men followed her home in their car while I was over her house, which prompted us to draw and call the police while they rattled the door
-Her dealer dumped her in a bar that later the people she got involved with dumped her in a steel shipping yard
Basically, she’s a literal fucking trainwreck with alcohol and it ALWAYS ends in disaster. So tonight when she called me I didn’t take it seriously and I said it’s her fault. AITAH?