Aita for telling my(54m) estranged daughter(29f) that i have no interest in fixing our relationship since she married a man(58m) older than me?

Might be and ass but who cares at this point.

My estranged daughter “Lexi” got married to her husband Brandon when she was 27. I’ve never liked him nor did I approve of their relationship and I was very vocal about this.

I told her if she went with the wedding then she’d lose me for life, this marriage was a joke and I was begin humiliated by my friends because of this. She thought I was bluffing. I wasn’t. I didn’t show up at her “wedding.” Which I heard was grand. And sent her a email detailing how I didn’t value us begin in contact anymore and I would appreciate It if she stayed away from me. Blocked her on all social media and ignored her very time she came to visit my wife.

Recently found out she’s pregnant(lord help those babies) through my wife. I guess they expected me to be all jolly about this but I’m not. I’m not interested in begin in her life again. My wife called me cruel for this but my sons say it’s my choice and one added how he would be embarrassed too if it was him.

She reached out 3 days ago in an email, saying how she wanted to fix this so our kids could have a grandpa(isn’t her husband already their grandpa?). She said she was fine with us not begin close anymore but if I could spare her kids out of this. I didn’t respond and told my wife to tell her to leave me alone next time they met since she obviously couldn’t take a hint.

This caused a huge fight between me and my love, she said she couldn’t possible stand for me begin this cruel to my daughter and said I either have to fix this or our marriage would have long lasting damages(not divorce.)

Aita? I didn’t agree with mariage nor do I respect it, I just don’t think I should waste my time forcing myself to be around her and her family.