Help me to not hate men

To start, I’m a depressed 32F that has extremely high standards and has only ever been disappointed by every single person I know (myself included). I have a very cynical point of view of the world, which has only increasingly gotten worse over time. I’m in the last year of my engineering PhD program and want nothing to do with the field I’ve spent 6 years becoming an expert in. I think I truly hate men, but I don’t want to. I don’t know if it’s the fact that I attribute a lot of the current state of the world to men’s doing, the fact that men have filled my graduate experience with trauma, I’ve been SA’d by a man I dated, I’ve had my ideas stolen and published by men I trusted, I fell in love to only lose my trust after 7 years, have had a mostly absent alcoholic father that only now wants me more in his life that he is aging and in worse health…I mean my list can truly go on. My list does not go on the same for women. Please help me to not think this way. Tell me about the good men in your lives, what they have done. I don’t want to have such a depressing outlook that will surely just leave me to be alone for the rest of this life.

Edit: It seems like there are some people telling me I’m the problem, when I clearly stated above that I’m depressed, cynical, and have high expectations. I’m fully aware. I asked for stories of good men. Not for people to tell me I’m the problem…