Stuck in a 9 year relationship

I (26F) met my fiancé as high school sweethearts and I feel stuck in this relationship. We’ve been living together for a couple years and I think it’s gotten to the point where I am even too tired to care or fight anymore. I communicate my feelings, nothing gets resolved, and life goes on. It hurts deeply. I am longing to feel love, connection, and to be cared for. I am longing for some passionate sex and to feel like a wanted woman. I check my tires, I change my own oil, I put gas in my tank, I remind him to care for his car. I get the groceries, I cook, I clean. I buy myself flowers. I open my own door. I come home from work and I rub my own feet because asking for a massage is just too much for his little hands. I mean come on. I even paid off his debt. Where is my fucking partner?