Update: am i overreacting for not wanting to see this guy again after the first date?
I had to remove my first post because i accidentaly put a screenshot with his name in.
I am traveling through Asia and I went on a date with a 34yom (i am 34f) and from the start he was loud and obnixious, and arrogant. Only talked and talked. We had some dinner, and went for a drink after. We went to play a board game, when he seemed to calm down a little bit, and playing a 'game' asking questions back and forth. That was the first time i felt he was somewhat interested in me as a person.
Before we went on the date, i told him very clearly that i booked my own room and wanted to stay there. He was like 'up to you', so i thought it was fine with him. The messages we sent back and forth looked genuine and respectful, but after meeting him i feel totally different.
After some drinks he convinced me to watch some stand up comedy at his place (5 minutes from me) and when i was there, he tried to keep me there. Tried to convince me to stay, i really had to stand my ground firmly to leave, and when he left he insisted he could follow me to my own bungalow. Why? Because it was dark? I don't know, the area is very safe here. He went into my bungalow and had a hard time leaving..he wanted to stay. I told him to please go, because i wanted to sleep. He went back to his and started to send me all these messages. I see so many red flags.
I haven't been talking to him anymore but i read his last message (he cannot see i read it tho). It upsets me, because it feels like he is trying to gaslight me by twisting my words into what he wanted to hear. I blocked him but would like to share this with you because i'm feeling distressed. I am afraid as soon as he sees i blocked him, he might become angry or agressive.
I also saw his LinkedIn profile and i see he has been lying about his job and how many phd's he has. He was also bragging about how much money he has and how good he is with X Y Z ...
Am i overreacting if i feel scared and feel like i have to leave my resort to find another place? Because he knows where i stay.. i don't know him and what he is capable of. A part of me wants to argue with him and tell him how full of shit he is, but i just blocked him. I feel quite icky about this situation tbh.