Am I Overreacting when my wife goes out with no wedding ring?

You know when you're about to quit a job so you just totally stop caring? I feel like that's where my wife is at right now.

We've been married 10 years but we did not start on a solid foundation. I'm 39 she just turned 37. We accidentally got pregnant and decided to stick together and make it work. There's always been this resentment that she "got stuck with me". Maybe once a month she will go downtown with her best girlfriend, she really does not drink otherwise, so when she goes out she goes hard. When I met her she was a party girl and I am the responsible, stable aka boring dude at home waiting up for her. A few years ago she "lost" her wedding ring while she was out, I believe it because whenever she drinks with this friend they are black out drunk and it's either the credit card is gone, her ID is gone, her phone is gone, always something. Anyways she got a new ring but never wears it because she's afraid to lose it. Sure. I'm not trying to be jealous I'm not trying to be controlling so whatever, go have fun. What's changed recently is that she when comes home drunk she is brutally honest with me. Tells me how much attention she gets from other guys, tells me she doesn't have to pay for a single drink. She is very pretty and very outgoing. She says "Oh I tell them I'm married and that we have kids but they don't care!" Well yeah they don't care, they don't see a ring and they don't see any husband around so I think they're seeing what I'm seeing which is a woman who WANTS to meet someone new. Someone who likes the attention and is actively seeking these younger guys that hit on her. If she hasn't already cheated, it's coming. I have no evidence of it but I feel like it's only a matter of time.

This past weekend she comes home drunk and tells me "I've wasted my youth on you" and directly compares me to the younger guys she was just flirting with and looks at me with such disappointment and disgust. I'm in great shape, I'm a great husband and dad, I make a lot of money and give her everything she needs. I'm trying hard not to let her tear me down and make me feel like i'm not worth it but it's getting harder. Communication is not our issue, we've had this talk so many times and she just doesn't care. Says if I'm upset about it then that's my problem and I need to get over it. If I'm emotional about it she calls me a crybaby. I'm only posting this because I think it's therapeutic to just get it out there, but if you have any insight or support I'm all ears. Thank you in advance!