Updated to add: yes he’s done something like this before. It’s been years but he punched/barely punched me once (claimed he stopped himself but fist did touch face.. no blood or bruising though), and forcefully yanked me around in public so violently that a woman stepped in. Today was first time with blood and first time my daughter saw. All that being said I feel like an idiot to be at this point. Within the past 6 months he has been collecting my full paycheck. I’m going to start my own savings and start on my exit plan. I don’t have family in this state so I’ve got to do this alone. He started crying when I told him this is it, and he got on the phone to get a therapy appointment. I’ve been begging him to go to therapy for years but he doesn’t stick with it. It’s weird bc he’s acting all fine now, like nothing happened. It’s really ducking with my brain bc I feel in danger but he’s all hunky-dory. But I have to do this my girls. Thanks for your kindness. I’m going to go take a nap now.. try to get past this flu so I can do what I need to do next.

So our whole family has come down with the flu. Fever, body aches, throwing up.. the whole bit. First my daughter, then my husband, then me, then another daughter. Saying this because my husband is further along in his sickness by at least a day. He should be on the side of getting better. No more fever now. So he took my younger daughter to walk-in clinic today to confirm flu and get school note. My fever broke last night so I’m feeling a bit better; while they were out I made the seemingly-long trek bringing the garbage can from the street, back to the house. When I came inside I locked the door accidentally.

When they got home, his hands were full, he couldn’t get in the house, and he had texted that he wasn’t feeling good again while he was out. So when he couldn’t open the door he started ringing the bell over and over and over and over again. My oldest daughter is still sleeping so as I’m walking to the door to let them in, I’m getting mad.

I finally unlock the door. Tell him not to talk to me bc all that was unnecessary. He shoves his way in and acts like a jerk “you knew I didn’t feel good. Why is the door locked??”.. and his ride attitude just makes me madder. I tell him “I forgot to unlock it after bringing the garbage back. I’m sorry. I’m still sick too. Just don’t talk to me. “

I start getting update from the doctor from my daughter, and husband keeps trying to interject. I keep stopping him (bc we’re both still angry) and getting the doctor report from my daughter.

Husband then comes at me with a plastic bottle of Ensure, throws it at me, calls me a stupid fat bitch, then shoves me. I fall backwards. My daughter yells “don’t shove my mom!” Somehow in the fall my upper lip is busted, and is now bleeding.

He goes and “passed out” in the other room for a while then comes out apologizing and saying he blacked out. He doesn’t know what happened. He’s sorry. He blacked out. Etc etc

I feel like I was just a victim of DV, yet he’s saying he blacked out so I shouldn’t hold it against him. My lip hurts and my body hurts from the flu and I am just exhausted and don’t know to do.