Desire to be naked around other gay men
Recently I’ve found myself with the deep desire to be naked around other gay men - but not necessarily in a solely sexual way. I think it’s more about being vulnerable, shedding shame, being seen, maybe a bit of exhibitionism, maybe a bit of titillation? - I’m really not sure what the pull of this is. I’m fully out, married to my husband in a monogamous relationship, well adjusted in life. Yet this primal urge has reared its head and I can’t shake it.
I guess what I’m looking for is less sexually focused than just going to a bathhouse (but not completely absent of it). Things like a nude beach or a clothing optional men’s resort, a pool party around other gay men, being nude around friends are more the vibe. This is something I’ve never felt the desire to explore until recently after hitting my 40s. It’s like a switch flipped and all my preconceived notions around being naked and it’s compartmentalization solely as something reserved for sex with my partner have fallen away.
I’ve mentioned this to my husband and he’s receptive, but a bit more tentative to explore this as enthusiastically as I am. And it’s something I might feel weird exploring solo.
I guess I’m curious if any other men have felt this kind of shift in mindset? How did you approach it? How did you explore it - particularly if you are partnered. Am I overthinking this?