Men and their obsession with the virginity of a woman.

I recently had a conversation with a guy with whom I was in the “talking stage” with. We started discussing on the topic of past sexual experiences and I let him know that I had none and that I am a virgin.

The response that followed gave me one of the biggest icks of all time.

He started behaving like he was really impressed and kept saying how it’s really tough to find girls who are still a virgin and girls these days don’t care about who they become intimate with. I started feeling really annoyed and irritated at his behaviour and it was obvious from my replies as well and questioned him why virginity is that important to him. Needless to say we had a very unpleasant discussion about women and what they choose to do about their sex life where at one point he even “jokingly” said that the reason why I am getting upset is probably because I lied about being a virgin(the audacity).

How do you even begin to make men like these understand the disgust we feel as women when they value us more for our virginity than who we are as a person?

Like is he only going to value me as long as I’m a virgin? It’s so frustrating and stupid.

Before you come at me and say you can have preferences, Yes, you can choose to prefer a virgin as a partner but to estimate the value of a person on the basis of their virginity and making it sound like the person is more worthy because they are a virgin is simply wrong.