Do You Ever Get Sick of the Hypocrisy Around Dating Standards

There's a thread on r/askwomenover30 where they are bashing this sub, and their main complaint seems to be that we encourage men to have any standards at all, the standards they seem upset at being "she should be nice to you, have sex with you, and not be fat." It's so ridiculous, all over social media you can find posts bashing men for things like being bald, short, having a small penis (sure one of them will accuse me of that, since when it comes to body shaming double standards are the only standards they have) and all other manner of things we can't control, but the mere suggestion that we want women with a healthy body weight is seen as some type of impossible, ridiculous demand! And the thing is, having been fat and now being fit myself, I can tell you women don't like fat men either in addition to all of the other standards they have! Women over there were getting mad that some men here saying they want a woman with a BMI of 21 or lower, which is completely healthy, meanwhile every man in popular culture, even men in their 50'a and 60's like the recent Deadpool Wolverine, are portrayed with below 10% body fat, and anything else is called derisively a "dad bod!" What's even crazier is that surveys show men prefer women at healthy 20-24% body fat well women prefer men with shredded abs at or below 12%! What's even crazier to me is all of these ridiculous double standards are completely acceptable in polite company, making fun of a bald man for being bald is par for the course but mocking a fat woman for being fat is considered gauche. I'm just sick of it and I am glad that we have this subset where we can at least speak truth.