Disordered eating

I’ve struggled with disordered eating since my teens and have been sent to a therapist to treat it I never discuss weight negative body image etc in front of my girls as I know that’s what triggered my issue

My heart shattered today My 9 year old daughter had a doctors appointment she’s always been a bigger girl but today weighed in at 121 I saw the look in her eyes when she stepped off the scale I knew all too well

When in the room she said she was sad because she had lost 6lbs but it wasn’t enough she said when she’s with her dad that she weighs herself goes out and exercises and weighs herself again. I asked her if she’s skipping meals intentionally and she said yes.

She’s 9 I cried taking to her doctor about this as I didn’t want to have the conversation in front of her I’m seeking therapy and plan to talk to her school counselor tomorrow as well

I explained to her that not eating will not help her lose weight because that’s not how it works and she told me it will and that is how it works I explained that healthy eating habits are important so choosing healthy drinks over soda and healthy snacks over chips would be a good idea as well I talked to her about being active as well

Has any other mom gone threw this especially with a child so young While also dealing with issues yourself?

I do not have “classic” anorexia And do not look the way anorexia is prominently portrayed as I struggle with both anorexia and binge eating