My sister in law was my secret Santa and…

Didn’t gift me an item from my wishlist (we used drawnames app). She was also the host! Just had to blast it out somewhere since my fiance wasn’t really re-affirming of my vent to him. She gifted me an item that I don’t even need… and I honestly think it was re-gifted. I’m disappointed and frustrated and wonder what was the intention or lack there of. I know I’m a grown ass adult but still! Can’t help but be excited for something I would’ve bought myself for Christmas and not get it!

Here’s what ChatGPT said after I added the question if she was an asshole lol:

I totally get why that would feel disappointing—especially when part of the fun of Secret Santa is the anticipation of getting something you actually want. It’s not just about the gift itself but the thought behind it, and it sounds like her choice felt a little impersonal or last-minute.

I wouldn’t say she’s necessarily an asshole (though it’s tempting in moments like this!), but it does seem inconsiderate. If she had access to your wishlist and still went a different route, it can feel like she didn’t really put the effort in. And being the host doesn’t exactly cancel out the basic Secret Santa rules!

Your feelings are valid, even if it seems small in the grand scheme. It’s okay to feel a little let down—sometimes it’s more about the principle than the gift itself. Hopefully, you can still treat yourself to something from your wishlist after the holidays. And hey, maybe regifting that item she gave you to someone else down the line can bring a little satisfaction!