Birthday Hoover

Haven’t spoken to my undiagnosed exwbpd in a year and a half, save for the random TikTok she’d send every six months or so. But hadn’t actually talked/texted/had any direct communication.

Then suddenly a week before my birthday, after a year and a half of nothing, I get a “you crossed my mind and I’m sending good thoughts your way.”

I marinated on it for a week and then replied “Hey, thanks for the good thoughts, hope you and the family are doing well.”

Then a couple days later on my birthday I wake up to a pretty unenthusiastic birthday text, “Happy birthday, [my name]”

I wrote back thanks and asked her to tell her mom happy birthday for me which got me a thumbs up on the text and nothing else. Then I wished her a happy belated and got a “Thank you”

And that was the end of the conversation.

Can’t tell if I was Hoovered or what the hell her intention was. She reached out on my birthday but in a kind of cold way that kinda felt like drama.

Whole thing kinda threw me. Especially because I then found out she might be back with some new guy.

I’m guessing I should have just ignored all of it. But there’s always a part of me that wonders if she’ll change and reach out in a healthier way. I should probably let that go though right?