Your truth vs. their perception of your truth

Anyone have any experience/thoughts on when your spouse with BPD thinks they know what your are feeling, and despite you telling them that it isn’t true, they still stand by what they feel?

I’m sure all of us do, but it’s so hard to have to experience this. I just wish this person I cared so much about would hear my words and my truth and accept it as true, even as I acknowledge that she may have a different opinion on our marriage, and that is ok.