When parent blames you for your feelings

"Be grateful, we're trying our best, why are you so angry? Suck it up. You know that in my age I.." .... I don't even remember what she said. I didn't listen to her and she didn't listen to me. But I was blamed for my reaction, for my anger towards lack of privacy, and she minimized my struggles.

"Parents always want best for their children! We're trying, why don't you understand us!?"

I don't know. I don't have any words. It was minutes ago but my brain blocked her shitty speech. Folks, I want to cry. I guess she tried to shame me and do some dirty manipulation in order to make me bad one for my pain. And of course, comparison! And then she recalled how I tried to go to doctors to get proper treatment with "that was useless, isn't it? you still have poor schedule, you shouldn't have went to doctor" like, wtf???? why would someone even mention something absolutely off-topic? just to blame me?

I'm not sure. I don't want to doubt myself, my feelings, so I write here. I'm tired. I expressed my anger and was shamed for this. Or no? I don't remember clearly.. I don't understand her. She said that I don't understand her. That it is my reaction where's the problem. .... I'm tired.