Got some unsolicited DMs on Reddit after posting on r4r

I’m sure this phenomenon isn’t anything new for women who’ve posted on r4r, but this was the first time I, a man, ever did and got messages like this. R4R has tags for a reason, “M4F” if you’re a man looking for a woman, “F4M” if woman looking for a man, “M4M” if man looking for another man, etc. and that’s all well and good.

But I really don’t understand the mindset of these men who message me, a man who explicitly states that he’s only looking for a woman. Why not just look for tags that say “M4M”?

I know I could have just ignored and not responded to their messages and others like them, but it just made me feel really violated and uncomfortable. Unsolicited messaging is sexual harassment, plain and simple. Have some fucking class, guys.