Not sure what he wants from me
My husband (33M) and I (27F) were married for two years, together for three, and got pregnant a month after dating. This February, my husband asked for a divorce and told me that I would eventually need to move out once I got a job and was on my feet. I moved out of our apartment (attached to his family’s house) in May to a friend’s house with my toddler due to continuous gaslighting and emotional abuse. One day he would ask, “What do you want for dinner?” and the next, he would say, “I hate you.” To maintain my mental stability and continue being a great mom to our toddler, I had to leave.
Although he wanted the divorce, I had to file for separation in July to get a solid parenting plan and child support, ensuring I could provide for my child and get on my feet. Since then, he has continued his emotional rollercoaster and outbursts. Recently, he said he feels like he is throwing away the beautiful family he prayed for.
He has asked to get dinner with me to “get to know each other” and see where it goes. When I tried to understand his intentions, he shared that he doesn’t want any expectations and just wants to get to know me better and maybe try being friends.
I need advice on how to move forward. I told him that God has been healing me and I’ve been growing in my faith, so I don’t have time for games. But what does this mean? I feel like I’ve put so much energy into fighting for us and holding onto hope. However, his recent outbursts and hurtful comments have pushed me away, and I cannot go back to him without complete change.
Additionally, he has been awful to me, including cheating on me, leaving me and our baby for a month, not helping much with parenting for our child’s two years of life, and making hurtful comments about my body after childbirth. He has called me emotional, difficult, stupid, and said my education and career (mental health therapist) are stupid. He has said I was a mistake and that he regrets me, claiming I was just a good time to him. I am not sure how I can go back to that. I feel like I’ve been struggling to find security in myself and my body again after all that.