Real and Scams

I'm talking to this seemingly wonderful woman on a dating app, but I have a sinking feeling it's actually a scam. I have unfortunately come across too many like this before. Does anyone have any advice how I can truly tell if this is real without being insulting? I've been told I am gullible and I'm trying to fix that.

Update: So we've been talking for a couple days. I haven't said anything to her that isn't readily public knowledge. Things seem to be going well. She seems to be a part of some nonprofit organization. (If this is legit I don't want to share too much of their personal info) But now she is asking me to handle some "errands" by handling money from her org to orphanages and such through Bitcoin. Also stating I get an allowance (that I don't recall going over before) and would like me to be submissive and loyal. To me things are starting to not seem right. The nonprofit seems legit though.