“Break up” vent

Everything felt right with him. He was intentional, kind, and constantly reassured me. We had great conversations, rarely fought, and he introduced me to his friends and integrated me into his life. He respected my boundaries, surprised me with thoughtful gestures, and spoke about our future together. I felt safe and cherished, and I showed him love in return, always expressing my appreciation and putting in effort to make him feel valued. Despite this, he hesitated to make us official, citing fear of commitment, and I tried to be patient because his actions showed he cared deeply. I even started therapy to address conflict habits he brought up, but he said I wasn’t improving fast enough, which felt frustrating and dismissive of my efforts.

Eventually, he broke things off, saying I was 90% of what he needed but the 10% I was “missing” felt significant. He admitted he always feels like something is missing in relationships and said he might regret this decision but still ended it. I respected his boundaries and have been in no contact since. Recently, I discovered he’s already dating someone new, which hurts deeply because he never posted me but has posted her within two months. I feel hurt and disappointed because I believed we could work through our challenges (which up until the break up he always reassured me we could navigate everything together). I guess It’s just hard to accept that I wasn’t enough for him despite all the love and effort I gave.