Sources to understand animus better?

I (female) have been trying to understand what the animus is about and I am really getting confused. Some things I have gleaned (from listening to von Franz youtube interviews and reading others) include:

• Animus is the "male energy" in the woman
• Animus can act like a villain telling the woman she is ugly, will not succeed in intellectual pursuits, etc.
• Animus needs to be "occupied" with creative pursuits (so... you need to distract it somehow? this is also confusing to me because in my mind creativity = feminine, emotional = anima??)
• "Animus possession" can happen which basically induces all the stereotypical negative traits attributed to women (I haven't seen a single description of this that isn't borderline misogynistic though)
• If a woman is inclined towards having opinions or intellectual pursuits then she is possessed by animus and needs to get back in touch with her emotions
• If a woman is animus possessed then this can make men irritated with her (from a von franz interview)

This is a very fragmented and strange view of animus. It feels like animus is this grab bag of stuff that can cause a woman to behave in ways that the world (especially men) doesn't like. And also animus is a complex or an internal "part" that one can tame, integrate or distract.

I don't really understand why the default version of animus is like this villain who is causing the woman to act in all these negative ways.

tl;dr Am looking for primary sources (jung, von franz or modern jung scholars) to clear up my confusion regarding what animus even is and how to "deal" with it. Bonus points for descriptions that don't include outdated stereotypes regarding women.