My husband makes me feel unwelcome in his house.

My husband (m41) and I (F45) met 6 years ago. He has a large country house. I have a small apartment in a city. We live between one another's homes. My home is close to where we work, his is better for relaxing. It sounds perfect but it is hell.

I don't feel welcome in his home. I feel like I can't do anything right. I have been shouted at for.. -Cleaning the house at 11am -Washing up -Using his office to work... After he told me I could use it. He screamed at me that I make everything into a office -Not washing up (see above) -Carrying fire wood across the garden to light the fire in the morning so he wouldn't have to. -Cleaning the shed -The way I do the laundry

And the final straw not cleaning... I had gone to bed early as I was unwell. I woke up in the morning still unwell to see a mess on the kitchen table. I thought it was his breakfast leftovers. It was left overs from his midnight snack and he got angry with me for not cleaning up. I walked out and went home.

Very often I feel like the only reason he invites me to his homis when he needs something he has forgotten to bring from the city

He is also very critical of my home, income, heritage.

After last weeks argument. I wrote to him and told him he should keep that as his own personal space and that is better that I don't come down there again. He didn't respond to that.

His mother is now saying it is weird I won't visit my husbands home. Is it? I just can't bear the arguments, I feel like I'm only invited there because he has to invite me.