Wife rejecting child

Alsalam alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

My wife and I have been married for three years, and this is our first child. Allah has recently blessed us with a healthy daughter, alhamdulillah. However, my wife has been experiencing significant emotional difficulties since giving birth. She is refusing to breastfeed the baby or spend time bonding with her. Whenever I encourage her to care for or feed our daughter, she reacts negatively and even threatens that she hates the child.

Currently, our daughter is being fed with formula, and her care is primarily being handled by my wife’s mother and sister. I have repeatedly tried to speak with my wife to help her understand that our child needs her love and attention, but my efforts have not been successful.

We live a comfortable life, alhamdulillah, and I always strive to make things easy for her. I’ve never forced her to do anything against her will, but I am deeply hurt and disappointed by the way she is treating our daughter. I suspect she might be suffering from postpartum depression, OCD, or another mental health condition, but I’m unsure how to handle the situation.

At the same time, I am struggling with feelings of anger and frustration. I try to calm myself through salah and istighfar, but I cannot shake the sense that her behavior is unfair to our child. I also feel that her family’s tendency to spoil her is contributing to the problem, leaving me feeling helpless.

I’m worried about my daughter growing up with a mother who displays this attitude and lack of involvement. I love my wife, but I am at a loss for how to address these challenges in a way that supports her while ensuring the well-being of our child.

Please advise me on the best course of action. Jazakum Allahu khairan.

Update:

It’s ironic how women often receive unconditional empathy and support simply because of their gender, while men, when they open up and seek help, are often met with negativity and judgment.

I would like to sincerely thank everyone who provided their feedback in a respectful and considerate manner. Jazakum Allah khairan. May Allah forgive those who insulted or judged me without understanding.

Alhamdulillah, I spoke to my wife, and we sought medical help. Things are improving significantly—she has started to bond with the baby, care for her, and is even considering breastfeeding. Alhamdulillah.