I could NeVerrr

I have this one friend I don’t see often, but whenever she sees me will compliment my hair and say “omg your hair is gorgeous, but my natural hair could never”. “You’re so bold for wearing your hair out, I wish I could be like you, but I could never.” “You’re so good at styling your hair, I could never. My hair is so difficult to style.” I don’t mind the compliments, it’s the “I could never that pisses me off.” I bit my tongue for too long, and would always say thank you.

Anyways recently she said “Your hair is so pretty, I could never.” And I said yeah you could never. Then I said, but not because you could never but because you don’t want to. Mind you she’s always in a “protective” style and doesn’t wash her hair or care for it while it’s in it even though I’ve given her a routine and all the advice.

She said I was mean, maybe I was but I’m so over the stupid backhanded compliments. Like why’s my natural type 4 hair good to your eyes but your own hair isn’t. Like? It makes me very skeptical of the compliments because it shows you don’t like what YOUR hair looks like and it makes me wonder how genuine that compliment is when they don’t even like their own hair.

Can anyone relate? Did I overreact?

This can’t just be happening to me right? Gahhh… rant over 🫠 I tagged this as need advice because there was no flair for rant lol.