I can't seem to like ugly women.

Hi, I'm 19M, I'm a medical student. I've been in one relationship which was three years ago. Been focusing on my studies ever since with flirting every once in a while.

Recently, I realized just how much a woman's attractiveness influences my behavior toward her. Last week, I met someone who was genuinely interesting to talk to—we had a lot in common, from music taste to humor. As we continued our conversation, we exchanged pictures. The moment I saw her, I noticed that I didn’t find her attractive. Which is fine.

But after that, my entire interaction with her changed. I found myself unable to see her even as just a friend, as if spending time with her was suddenly meaningless. And it’s not that I don’t have female friends without romantic interest— I do. But I’ve noticed that all of them are conventionally attractive, or at least I find them attractive.

When I think rationally, I know this mindset is flawed—not just morally, but also for my own personal growth. Prioritizing someone's looks to this extent feels wrong.

How can I change this behavior? How can I learn to see women beyond the lens of a potential romantic partner?

Any advice, insights, or even personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

I apologize if this post offends anyone. Not everyone judges women from this lens, and I honestly believe people deserve better than this kind of bias.