Kids pack for themselves

Two daughters, 11 and 14. I have always packed for everyone. And my family likes to roast me for stressing about it. Or packing the wrong shirt or forgetting something they wanted to wear, or even something simple like toothpaste one time. After the last trip I was kind of done being the punchline when everyone is capable of packing for themselves. So we took a trip to Florida after Thanksgiving and I didn’t pack for them. I reminded my kids of what to pack (“don’t forget swimsuits, you need x outfits, pj’s, underwear,etc”), but left it for them. Both girls forgot swimsuits and my husband forgot items as well. He’s complaining that I should not have let them pack for themselves and this is my fault. I disagree. Who is out of touch?