People need to stop telling me that babies are portable.

EDIT: I just want to add, first of all, thank you to everyone who offered suggestions and support. A few things popped up that I hadn’t considered!

But also, we are seasoned travellers so we will do it and we’ll make it work and all will be fine, the problem isn’t the doing it, the problem is family and friends telling me it’s absolutely easy peasy and doesn’t need much planning or cost when they’re not the ones having to do it. 🤣.

I want to go home to the UK for the first time in about 4 years. I live in Denmark with my husband and almost 5 year old and 5 month old sons.

When ever I mention going home, which would entail either a flight (with connection) followed by hiring a car as my family are spread out around the UK (or my sister would have us all, luggage includedget around by train and bus on public tranbsport), or driving all the way which involves two days of driving on either side of our getting there, people tell me "Oh it'll be ok, babies are portable."

Oh. I guess I imagined the need for a pram or a crib or nappies or formula or bottles or a car seat?

My 5 year old is portable. My baby who hates being in a baby carrier and can't sit up unaided, is not. Especially not when you factor in suitcases etc.

Even if we drove we have to stop every few hours because otherwise it's not safe for him.

"People travel with kids all the time!" - My sister, mother of one boy who's never had to travel without her car or with more than one kid.

"Just put baby in the bed with you?" Well meaning friend who doesn't seem t realise that if we're in a hotel (and it would end up being multiple hotels) that would mean we'd have to book a much bigger and more expensive room as I can't bed share with both baby and my husband. I don't even like bed sharing at home if it's just me and baby.

It probably isn't so hard but for once can people who don't have to undertake a task, not tell you how easy it is?