Being a PhD student not attractive to dating prospects?

I am a 32F, in my final year (hopefully!!!) trying to defend and graduate. I have dated quite a bit during my PhD and I feel like being an older 30s female PhD student isn't very attractive? I am sure something similar is true for men as well.

For example, I have had guys who would love to have a women who works very hard and earns a lot of money (type A ambitious type women), however as a PhD student I didn't make more than 20-25k a year, where the men who wanted a high earning women didn't really fit well. Whereas, there are other men who are more traditional and would love to have a woman who doesnt make much but also works way less and mainly takes care of the house/domestic chores/raise kids etc.

In both such experiences, I felt like I didn't fell into either categories. Like a woman who works extremely hard, and doesnt have time to be the main housekeeper, yet still doesnt make a lot of money, isn't attractive to a lot of people. It probably takes a unique type of guy (or girl) to be in a relationship with a phd student because we have the worse of both worlds (overwork + underpay) going on.

Just something I was thinking about today reflecting on my past experiences. Feel free to share your experience.