The Red Pill is Making Men Weaker, Not Stronger

Red Pill claims to be about male self-improvement, but at its core, it’s nothing more than biological determinism disguised as self-improvement. It tells men that everything in dating and relationships is dictated by evolutionary psychology—women are hypergamous, men must be providers, and everything is hardwired into our nature.

If that’s true, what’s the actual solution? If we’re all just acting out our biological programming, then men have no real agency. There’s no actual evolution—just submission to what’s “natural.” Red Pillers think they’re adapting, but all they’re really doing is accepting that they are slaves to their own biology. How is that mindset healthy for men?

This is where the contradiction of Red Pill thinking becomes obvious. On one hand, they say modern society is broken and men are disadvantaged. On the other hand, they insist that the only way forward is to double down on the very instincts that are causing those disadvantages. If women are wired to be hypergamous and men are wired to chase status, doesn’t that just mean men are doomed to endlessly compete for validation that will never truly satisfy them?

Red Pill doesn’t teach men to become whole on their own—it just tells them how to fight harder for female validation. It keeps women at the centre of everything, measuring male success by how well a man “performs” in the dating market. But true self-improvement means separating self-worth from relationships entirely. A man’s value isn’t tied to how many women he can attract, how much status he gains, or how well he plays a broken game.

True adaptation means questioning the system itself, not just finding ways to “win” within it. Real self-improvement isn’t about maximising your value for women—it’s about rejecting the idea that you are defined by your biological role at all.

The real "Red Pill" is understanding that you don’t have to be a slave to instinct. Men don’t have to be providers, competitors, or desperate for female validation. They don’t have to measure their success in terms of how women perceive them. If Red Pill men were truly “free-thinking,” they’d be the ones walking away from the game entirely—not desperately trying to prove they can still win it.