Books about bein' gay in your 30s and 40s?

Looking for stories (autobiographical or fiction) about people coming to terms with and accepting being gay/exploring same-sex relationships later in life, but not like elderly late in life. Maybe this is too specific, but anything where the author/character grapples with feeling "Well women are also attractive so I don't really have to worry about the guy stuff." In a general new year's sense of shaking things up I'm trying to come out more (as bi so only half gay) and I don't know how, lol.