[M26] When do women soft launch their bf on insta?

So I’ve been in a couple relationships and situationships and the women I’ve been with have never posted me on their insta story but I do see these same girls/women post goofy videos with their guy friends.

Their is really disheartening because they are (or pretend to be) in love with me.

For context - I’d see myself as an 8/10. I have around 90+ matches in 4 days. And I know when the girl is hitting on me or being attracted. But they never post me on their insta :/