Getting frustrsted

Hey all I'm Dan, I have adhd. Me and my wife enjoy attending swingers parties and taking mdma, expect when we get to said parties my body goes into fight or flight mode and I can't relax. The mdma doesn't hit like it's ment to and I also get stim dick. I've tries pt141 and viagra but I feel it's very hit and miss. And I feel almost no effects from mdma. Tried an extacy pill last night to barely any effect. It's getting very frustrating.