My fiancées (M28) grandma (F85) wants me (F26) to dress and act like a 1950s housewife

My fiances grandma (F85) gave me(F26) her old wardrobe from the 1960s,she gave me a makeover one day bc she didn’t like the way I dressed,I went out to eat with her dressed like Lucy Ricardo from I love Lucy.She also told me what to order at the Italian restaurant.

Every time I visit his grandma I have to go dressed like a 1950s lady.My fiancé (M28)likes it when i dress like that.this started when I went to his grandmas house wearing a t shirt and jeans.I personally don’t like wearing dresses.his grandma thought I was being disrespectful wearing that so she wants me to dress with etiquette and teaches me etiquette lessons to act ladylike.she said if I don’t do this she’ll refuse to pay for my husband’s portion of the wedding.I saved up money,but my fiancée told me not to argue with her.I snapped at her bc she was asking me evasive questions about my dating history and cooking abilities.she told me to go to her room gave me an old dress,stilettos to wear,put on makeup,painted my nails,cut my long hair into a perm.I now have to wear a wig bc of her.She also she gave me a old purse.she made me more “ladylike “.I’m mad my fiancée didn’t defend me.

My fiancé could afford to pay his portion of the wedding,since he’s such a cheapskate he doesn’t want to pay so he’s having his grandma pay his portion and she having us have all these strings attached,I literally had to get a makeover and a haircut bc he’s too cheap,I literally cried myself in bed that night and he didn’t give a fuck.All he says is we saving 30k I’m maxing out my portfolio woo hoo!!!I had to pickup my long locks and put it in a ziplock bag,I’m being overdramatic but I’m traumatized by his grandma.I want nothing to do with her.

She also wants me to make my fiancée meals from stratch like pizza and pasta since she’s Italian and from Italy and now lives in America.This led to my fiancée being comfortable making unreasonable requests like this one:

late at night after a long nursing shift.He sat around doing nothing all day.Its 10:30 at night.He asked me to make pasta from stretch bc that what his grandmother would do for his grandfather in the 1960s.He wants to train me to be a traditional wife bc he said they’re a rare gem nowadays.I feel really tired,annoyed and exhausted.This is my long rant.