I feel helpless, need help making this decision.

With all respect, If you have supportive parents and normal family, don't bother reading this because you won't get it.

I feel so lost right now, and I don’t know who to talk to. I’m 21F, and I just got an amazing job opportunity in a Tier 1 city. It’s a three-month probationary role where I'll be in a lead role with an amazing pay. It’s literally the kind of opportunity I’ve been dreaming of, especially since I’ve been struggling for months to land something this good.

But here’s the thing: my parents won’t let me go. Their problem? It is “too far.” That’s it. No other argument. They don’t care about how important this is for my career, how much I’ll earn, or how perfect this is for me. They don’t even care about how much I’ve worked for this. All they care about is that it’s inconvenient for them.

They’ve said things like, “Just get a random job somewhere close for your shokh (hobby) and then get married.” And this isn't typical indian parent argument. They have said stuff like "hamko tera paisa nhi chahiye", "tujhe itne paise kyu kamane hai", "tera pati kamayega tujhe kya karna hai career bana ke". Basically whatever you do, it doesn't matter.

I have worked really hard to be where I am rn, I belong from a low caste family from a small town. I am the first one to graduate in my whole family (7 children of my grandfather). I paid my own college fees, I have been living on my own, I don't ask for any money from my parents. And I do not want to leave such good opportunity for my career.

Yesterday, it all blew up. They were abusive, my mother even tried to hit me and throw my macbook and phone. I cried for hours 5 or 6 straight, until my eyes were red and swollen. They said things to me that made me realize they don’t care about my dreams or what makes me happy. They’re completely dismissive of everything I’ve worked for. I know they’ll never support me because their idea of my life is so small and suffocating.

What’s making this worse is that the founder of the company has been texting me to coordinate my relocation, and I don’t even know what to say to him. How do I explain that I can’t come because my parents don’t want me to? It feels so unprofessional and embarrassing. I don’t want to look like someone who flakes at the last moment, especially since this founder has good connections that I don’t want to burn.

I have enough funds to support myself if I move. I can pay for my flight, my rent, and my living expenses. But my parents are making this even more difficult, if they even agree to let me go they want to come with me to “drop me off,” and I obviously can’t afford to pay for their flights and stay in Bangalore. That’s just not realistic. (I haven't been working since few months)

Now, I’m torn. Should I just let this go and take the shame of turning down the offer, even though it’s so unprofessional and makes me look bad? Or should I fight for this and risk everything, knowing I’ll have no support from them? I feel so helpless right now.

I don’t know what to do. Am I wrong for wanting to prioritize my career and move to a city that actually has opportunities? Should I settle for a shitty job closer to home just to keep the peace? Or should I fight, even though I feel like I have nothing left in me? Or just run away?

I just need some perspective because I feel like I’m drowning right now.