Reminders (The List)
A list always helps, yes? Lol. I know, right?. So me.Well, I'm doing it anyways. And by the way, this is for me, but I'll put it here so you can use it too.
"Can't say I never gave ya nothin'!"
Things aren't always what they seem. You know this, but you need to remember the other part to it - they are not always what they FEEL to you.
Nobody cares. This isn't what it sounds like - people do care about you. A lot of people do, and to varying degrees. But when you're out somewhere in public, people aren't really looking at you, and they do not care. Will they glance at you and judge some superficial thing about you? Absolutely. But they forgot in 10 seconds. They don't retain their judgment of you in particular because they just don't really care. Stop missing opportunities to enjoy things in your life because someone's eyes skim over you.
You're not getting any younger. So, prepare for the future and take time for the present. Have fun, and save a little. We've always enjoyed being able to strike a balance, so why not strive for it in that area as well?
It is okay to be able to see the good in everything, as well as the bad. If there wasn't good things, we couldn't survive at all. Without bad, we wouldn't learn anything. It is healthy. Stagnation breed resentment because you know you should be evolving. It's why progress feels so fucking good.
** Disclaimer: When I say "good" or "bad" but I mean the brain's tendency to feel a seemingly "negative" or "positive" emotive response. **
- Only YOU save you. Help isn't coming, and you're on your own, homie.There's freedom in this. But it's lonely, and you must be self-motivated. If you don't swim, you will drown. We have people. Each of us, a tribe somewhere, or the ability to cultivate one. You can, and SHOULD, call upon these people to help & support you. Let them stand you up and brush you off, then get back to it. Move forward, no no, MARCH forward and know that if you fall, you do have a village. If you don't reach out, you're toast. You will fail. Only YOU make the choice to reach out and get help, only you make the hard decisions and do the adulty things. Only you can do that and get anywhere meaningful.
There's no guidebook to doing life, okay? We all just do what we can. We want to be able to do the BEST we can. You are allowed to fall, but you have to get back up fast. So keep going, okay? I love you!! Xoxo