Lack of coping skills?

I have been verbally and emotionally abused for many years now, but I wanted to ask does anyone’s partner have a complete absence of coping skills? There was a roadblock on the way to work (they left 2.5 hours early for their shift), called me to yell at me and say I don’t do anything, and then came home and called out of work. This is getting worse by the day. Any minor inconvenience and it turns into a meltdown, which usually turns into emotional, verbal, and physical (throwing things mainly and destroying property).