Can you tell when it’s coming?

Sometimes, I can tell when he’s ramping up and is going to “get me” for something. I run around like a maniac trying to tie up all of the loose ends, make sure everything is clean, organized, accessible, everyone is happy, fed, warm, don’t complain about anything, don’t say anything that can be used against me (which is most things, he can spin anything into an insult)….and yet it still happens. Maybe I’m just becoming more aware of the subtle signs something is about to happen. Also, my birthday is this weekend, and he can’t resist the urge to ruin it for me- there have been many. Trying to make a backup plan by myself or with my child so he doesn’t have to be involved.