How often are strap-ons really used?

My apologies if this is one of those questions every new lesbian asks and everyone has to answer the same way every time. I’m new to all this and did try and look for some answers before but couldn’t find any 😭

I categorize myself as a soft top/dom (or service top) as I, in general, prefer pleasing my partner over being pleased. I still like to have some attention but I’d like the majority (like 74-90%) of my time to be spent on my partner during sex, and most of my fantasies and aspirations for future relationships revolve around what I’d like to do for them instead of what I’d like done to me. But I’m also not into super hardcore dynamics/extreme kink, so that’s why I use “soft.”

I’m fine with using a strap-on, and I have before (long story short I topped a man when I thought I was bisexual until I realized I was a lesbian and also the relationship was toxic) but it’s not my favorite thing in the world and I personally would much rather give oral, fingering, scissoring, handheld toys, etc. I don’t dislike it by any means, I simply have a preference for other things for several different reasons (they feel more intimate to me personally, and the thrusting motion can be difficult on my hips due to chronic pain/it just feels a bit awkward for me lol)

So I was just curious how often people, on average, tend to gravitate towards using a strap on? Obviously I know everyone is different and different people will have different answers to my question. I’m sure I can find someone who shares my preferences, I just mostly wanted to get the lay of the land so to speak, so I know what to expect and whether or not I should be worried about bringing up this preference early on into my future relationships, or if it’s not a big deal to most people. I’ve had enough bad sex for a lifetime with my ex and I want to make sure I’m finding people I’m compatible with moving forward 😭