Career-driven woman and a laid back partner

Problem/Goal: I'm having trouble seeing a future together with my partner. We're running 3 yrs this year, and so far there's no change in our relationship. It feels stagnant anymore. Medjo mataas and magulo to so pls bear with me, first time posting here.

Context: We're both women. I'm a year older than her, and I'm turning 30. Within my stay with the company I'm in right now (4 yrs), I've been promoted thrice already, and she's been running 4 yrs with no movement at all. The lack of work ethic bothers the heck out of me.

There's not a month I can count na hindi siya late for work and there's always reasons why. Worst was when she's late everyday for a week when I was out sick kasi hindi daw siya motivated to work since I'm never in the office. We're not living together (she's still living with her parents), but she often times comes to stay in my apartment.

Really tho, the only problem I have is her work ethics lang talaga and recently lang ata yung lack of trying to look decent when going to work or going out on dates (which isn't much lately) kasi always lang naka shirt and pants, which isn't really a big deal na man.

And before you draw conclusions about why I'm still with her, it isn't that simple. While she may not be as driven as me, she's really really thoughtful and caring, quite the opposite of me. That's the field she excels at, and it's not like she can't provide for herself because she can naman. We've set boundaries early on in our relationship that we're 50/50 sa gastos when it comes to dates and trips.

Good qualities: caring, thoughtful, very patient (admittedly, matuyuin akong tao and mapride rin), family-oriented, doesn't hold a grudge, very loving, treats me like a princess and with such respect.

To highlight the thoughtful side and ang kacaring nya: there was a time where I got sick and hindi ko siya pinapansin kasi late na naman siyas trabaho (I know very petty pero lack of work ethics irks me), she waited for me to get off work, went to the clinic with me, by the time we came home sa apartment, she went outside to buy recipes for chicken arroz caldo (rainy day that time and I've been craving it), prepped the whole thing, massaged my shoulder (whole reason why we went to the clinic, kasi I've got pinch nerve on my shoulder), washed the dishes right after. She usually cooks and washes the dishes for me as she knows I hate doing dishes.

More qualities: When I usually go home sa province, she'd often visits my apartment to keep it clean and organizes and dust free para when I came home, I'll be resting na lang daw. There's more pero parang ang taas na

Previous Attempts: I've already explained to her that her lack of work ethics, yung para bang she's not responsible enough is making me feel like she doesn't have any plans for us in the future, na parang ako lang ang may plano to be financially stable for us both, that I can no longer picture us together because of such actions. She'll improve siguro for like a few weeks and then shit hit the fan and late na na man. It's always the same cycle with her.

Pls laparuhin ninyo ako para mahimasmasan akos kagagahan ko. Ako ba yung problema kasi underappreciated yung partner ko? Or ano?

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