The regretfulparents sub shows how many parents really don’t care about their children

The biggest complaint in that sub is that their baby/kid keeps crying or screaming. I have never once read on that sub true compassion for what the child is going through. It’s like they can’t process that their offspring is in pain or isn’t getting what they need. The options other posters give are always “daycare”, “find someone to babysit to give you a break”, or “use brown noise to drown out the sounds”.

What? You brought a living being here who is expressing pain, and you can’t even be maternal/paternal enough to try and understand what might soothe your child??? Instead your instant reaction is to mourn the loss of your childless life? It’s so insane.

These are the same parents who put their children on psychiatric drugs when they act up claiming “I have noooo idea why my kid is so depressed/anxious/hyper”.

Who do these people think they are? They can barely take responsibility for their child, offloading them any chance they can get and taking shortcuts to avoid actually BEING PRESENT with them. So many parents act like they are the ones afflicted but they afflicted the very thing they are annoyed by onto their child by placing them in existence.

I have a feeling most parents, not just the ones on that sub, have similar thoughts but just never reveal them. And if so, we live in a world where many people, maybe even most, deep down hate their children. Now it makes sense why most of us go through some form of abuse under the guise of “discipline” - our parents’ genuine contempt gets expressed through the abuse.

The baby did not STEAL your life. You made decisions that brought the child here. You committed an act of violence onto an innocent being by bringing them into a world of suffering and death - and yet SOMEHOW that flies over your head when they cry? All you can think about is you?

So messed up. I implore AN’s who haven’t to check out that sub. It really substantiates the AN position.