I hate how people act like my eating preferences are a problem for THEM

Yes i acknowledge that i have a lot of food preferences. Yes, im picky, and yes im terrified of germs on food. But why does everyone act like that’s such a problem? Why am i not allowed to have my own food that others don’t touch? Why am i not allowed to ask for different items on different plates? Why am i not allowed to not eat what I don’t like? It’s genuinely not even asking a lot, yet people act like im asking for SO much. I’m so tired of it.