Are my wants unreasonable?

Is it unreasonable to meltdown when my partner isn't affectionate? We have been having a really rough patch and a break, so when we came back I assumed we were trying to make it work. But it felt like he didn't want to be there, the lack of verbal affection triggers me so bad.

I end up crying and starting a huge fight because why can't he just show me love? Is it ok for a partner to not feel like being nice? Why doss it affect me so much?

I want to be less triggered by him. He says it seems like he's the center of my world and my emotions rely on how he responds to me- he's right.

I don't want to be emotionally dependant. And I am genuinely happy within myself and working on my own goals away from us. And yet still I feel so heartbroken and hopeless when he isn't affectionate with me. I read it as he doesn't love me and he will never be sweet to me again.

It's to the point that half the time I can't even remember why we fought. I usually say something whack. Or expect perfection and project. Why wont this cycle just end. I want to stop being picky. I want to just let things go. And not be soooo emotional all the damn time. I'm exhausted and so is he.