"You have such a good baby!" Is annoying.
Am I the only one who gets a little bit annoyed when people are constantly saying "your baby is so good!" For more context it really only annoys me when it seems like it's being used to diminish the work I do. For example being proud of myself for getting my son on a really good sleep routine and schedule so that he (usually) goes to sleep without any fuss. It took and takes work to follow and keep him on a good routine but when I talk about it it's just "oh you just have a good baby, he's easy." Or when I talk about my struggles working from home while taking care of a 5 month old "well. It can't be that hard. You have a good baby!" Like yes I'm aware that I'm lucky that I have a fairly mellow baby, he was never super colicky and he's always been on the chiller side. But when he is fussy or I'm struggling and I open up about it I just get "well, you shouldn't be struggling. He's a good baby 🥰" not only that I just really don't like the implication that there are "bad babies" like they're just babies, they have different Temperaments, some are less tolerant than others but it doesn't make them bad. Just because I have a more tolerant/mellow baby that doesn't inherently mean he's "better" than other babies. If I have another baby in the future that is less tolerant or is more fussy/clingy I don't want the narrative to be "well your brother was so much better!" I'm sorry if this makes me an asshole but I'm just tired of this whole "good baby bad baby" narrative