I hate my husband x100

Aside from the normal I hate my husband.

I truly can’t stand the sight of him. LO is 13 weeks. Husband has not been home for the entirety of c section post partum. He works (owns his own business), gone 16 hours a day, job is not labor intensive, just points fingers at his desk for other people to do his tasks for him. I have my own feelings about weaponized incompetence at home and at his work, ie walking by a trash bag that I left by the front door for him to take out

But yesterday morning, I emotionally boiled over once he left. When he decided to wake up for work, I said I was tired and had a migraine, I only sleep 3 hours per day. He said he’s tired too, always makes everything a competition

I try so hard to get LO to sleep independently in bassinet. Husband had all the lights on, played music while in shower, etc. Finally as me and baby started falling back to sleep (we woke up to nurse at 530am, started to go back to sleep around 8), husband comes in to be dad of the year for his 5 minutes per day, wakes me up to tell me he’s leaving (no kidding, you leave every morning) then kisses baby on the face and wakes baby up!!!!!!!!! As soon as LO started stirring, he booked it out the door.

So he’s gone, and baby wouldn’t stop crying and couldn’t be settled for almost 2 hours

I really want to tell my husband going forward, if either of us are asleep, leave us alone. He diminishes my efforts and exhaustion, all FTM feelings that it takes to be home with baby all day, all night, handling home, and all other responsibilities. I feel like he’s selfish and I don’t think I could hate him more.