How far is too far for 2-2-5-5 schedule?

My wife and I are in the early stages of a divorce in WA. She served me papers 20 days ago, so still very early in the cooldown period.

We don't even have a parenting plan yet, but have unofficially been doing a 2-2-5-5 schedule for our 3 year old twins and 6 year old son. Our son is in a Spanish immersion program, which is very important to both of us. So changing schools (down the street) is out of the question.

She has no interest in the marital home, and just wants to move out and start a new life. Understandable. Except the place she wants to rent and move to is 23 miles away (near her new support system, opposite direction of work) This would result in a roughly 45 minute commute to school, and over and hour home (Seattle traffic sucks).

She needs my permission to move the kids. I really want to be supportive of my coparent, but feel strongly that this move isn't in the best interest of our kids and is too soon.

Given their ages, I really want to be in the same school district. This way if kids forget stuff, it's possible to quickly grab it, and it's easier to support each other.

Hoping just for some perspective. I am incredibly sensitive and emotional right now, and don't want to come across as anything but amicable. We've promised not to use the kids as leverage in the divorce, but this truly feels like they aren't being prioritized by her.

I want what's best for my kids, but also want to be supportive and allow her to be free to move. She's convinced she won't find another place like this one if we follow the law and she has to give proper notice.