Thoughts on being unsafe?

I know this is a common and ongoing debate/discussion but I have been seeing so many fear mongering TikTok’s where women are saying co sleeping is not safe no matter what because their baby passed away.

Both videos I saw were due to PA (positional asphyxiation) and not SIDS? One of them went as far as to say that safe sleep 7 is not safe and that just because people do it means nothing.

I never ever planned on co sleeping and still feel guilty about it but we started around 6 months because that’s the only way any of us were sleeping. We followed the safe sleep 7 ever before we were co sleeping as a “just in case”. My son will roll over and lift his head on the bed but we mostly stay in the same position all night, me in the C curl and him on his side facing me. We do use a light blanket and very thin pillow for me but i feel confident my son would roll away from or pull the cover from his face IF that ever happened.

I feel like spreading fear is worse than safely educating and I know it’s probably one of those “until it happens to you” kind of things but I guess I’m not understanding why it’s deemed so unsafe when I feel it’s quite unnatural to force a baby to sleep independently. Like are these women not following safe sleep, I’m not understanding how these poor babies are passing away from “unsafe sleep” and why they are making these TikTok’s.

I’ve also seen that if a baby does pass from suffocation while “co sleeping” they mark it as SIDS because there’s no cause for it. In a world where we’re all just trying to do our best why is it so hard lol

Sorry for the long think piece but I’ve just looked into it so much and truly wouldn’t do it if I didn’t feel it was safe enough for our family..