I will never do a situationship again.

I met a guy last year on bumble who told me he wanted to find a relationship. I believed him so I agreed to work on things slowly with him, we hung out numerous of times, we texted every single day saying good morning and night. He even asked to travel with me and on the trip he calling me baby and doing PDA with me.

After the trip we were on FaceTime and I told him that I missed him, he suddenly did a 180 and told me he was never ready to commit and that he’s emotionally unavailable. He said that although he isn’t ready to commit or love me now, he might be to do both in the ‘short future’ but he just wanted to stay as ‘friends’ in the meanwhile.

I told him up front that if we were going to be friends that I would not be willing to do anything intimate nor affectionate with him until he lets go of his baggage. When I said this he completely lost his shit and started speaking to me in a really condescending tone, it’s almost as if I was talking to somebody completely than I was for the previous couple of months. He accused me of thinking he was ‘gross’ and ‘disgusting and that I triggered his body dysmorphia because I didn’t want to sleep with him. He disappeared completely after I told him that and I didn’t hear from until 2 months later and by then I was not interested in hearing from him at all whatsoever.

I felt like absolute crap for awhile afterwards but the longer I went without talking to him the better I began to feel about myself but I also realised that I actually am happier by myself.

Moral of the story is do NOT sleep with men until they are 1000% sure about committing to you and do not settle to be ‘friends’ with a man after he treated you like a partner, it’s translation for “I want to keep you around whilst I explore my options with low expectations from you and maybe if I feel like it I’ll give you what you deserve”.

You should also do a google search on who you are dating, an anonymous person reached out to me to warn who he really was and after I searched his name everything turned out to be right, it was pretty disturbing.