I don’t think it matters that much how soon you sleep with someone

I want to hear your thoughts on this. I (26F) have been dating for over 3 years now and I’ve been celibate for 2. I usually hold off on the sex just to make sure the person has the right intentions, but I feel like I am following a set of random rules (no house dates, no this, no that) instead of just going with the flow. I think about my other female friends who are in relationships and they all slept with their person within the first 3 dates. Honestly at this point, I am starting to think jt doesn’t matter that much if that’s the person for you.