Dating apps are actually pretty great (F41)
That's all.
Dating in my late 30's was really easy for me. My personal experience using apps to date was almost entirely positive. I'm just shocked so few people have found a way to enjoy using dating apps?
I had my pick of guys. It was like every cute single guy within my age range who lived within 15 minutes of me who wanted an LTR must have been on there. I was going out on 3 first dates per week most weeks and having a great time. I love conversation. I love people. I love dating. I love flirting with a cute guy while we try to figure out if there's attraction there or not.
It seems like all guys just want a girl to hold, and some kids, and a cute little house to live in. It was so sweet and adorable as these sexy, tough boys all laid their hearts bare and told me about their simple need for love.
It took meeting a little over 100 of those guys over 3 years before I found the one I was ready to make the center of my universe for the rest of eternity. There were so many great guys within that pool and I'm so grateful I got the chance to get to know so many different guys a little bit and was able to enjoy the process of finding the one who was right for me.
I was never attacked. I was never used and discarded. I only had sex if I wanted to. I was never negged or insulted or had my time wasted. The worst thing that ever happened was guys would stand me up, or the date would end in <5 minutes because one of us knew there was no possibility of attraction with the other. But I always saw that as a good thing, didn't waste any time and now I'm one step closer my goal of finding the right guy because that's one person I know I don't have to consider anymore.
I had to receive and give out a lot of rejection. But that doesn't bother me. Oh, this guy I've spent an hour talking to doesn't want to make me the center of his universe for the rest of his entire life? Can't blame him. What kind of a crazy ego would I have to have to let that bother me? He didn't like me or I didn't like him. That's ok. Maybe the next guy is the one.
Seems like I see multiple threads here every day with HUNDREDS of people all saying the same thing, "Everyone just wants sex. No one wants a relationship. People aren't up to my standards." Why can't you all find each other then? Surely some other people out there were able to enjoy the process of finding love?